Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
Revitalize your relationship with Emotionally Focused Therapy.
“There is no greater source of joy and meaning in our lives than our relationships with others.”
- Ester Perel
Relationships are incredibly important to our emotional well-being and happiness. Relationships single-handedly improve the quality of our lives. Relationships also require work and skillful attention to be successful and fulfilling – and most of us are rarely taught or shown how to do that.
Our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors sometimes get in the way of our connection with our partner. Communication breakdowns, feelings of rejection or abandonment, and unresolved conflicts can lead to feelings of hurt, anger, and disconnection in our relationships.
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) can be an incredibly powerful tool for helping partners in relationships to explore, restore and revitalize their emotional bond. EFT helps couples achieve improved communication, foster a deeper level of intimacy, create a more satisfying sex life, and build a more secure bond and fulfilling relationship.
“Emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT) is a short-term, systematic, and tested intervention to reduce distress in adult love relationships and create more secure attachment bonds.”
- Dr. Sue Johnson
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is a highly effective form of couples therapy that focuses on the emotional connections between partners, helping them to identify and change negative patterns of interaction, and promoting greater intimacy and closeness.
Through EFT, I help couples learn how to communicate more effectively, express their needs and emotions in a constructive way, and deepen their understanding and appreciation for one another. By working together in therapy, couples develop the tools and skills they need to create a stronger, more loving, and more fulfilling relationship.
“I am encouraging you to be courageous, look hard, and identify your usual response. It’s the one that pops out before you have taken a breath. This is the response that can trap you in a vicious cycle of disconnection with the person you love best.”
- Dr. Sue Johnson
Safe Space for Exploration and Sharing
One of the primary ways in which emotion-focused therapy helps rebuild emotional bonds between partners is by providing a space for each partner to explore their emotions and feelings, in a safe and supportive environment. During our couples therapy sessions, you will explore and identify your attachment needs and feelings and learn to openly and honestly share how your needs are or are not met by your partner.
I work closely with couples going through relationship distress to help them identify their emotional needs and desires and to develop new ways of communicating and connecting. This can involve exploring past experiences, revealing negative emotions that take a toll on the relationship, identifying triggers for negative patterns of interaction, and practicing new ways of responding to one another’s needs and emotions.
Guidance to Identify Your Emotional Needs and Desires
Tools to Revitalize Any Type of Romantic Relationship
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is inclusive and LGBTQ+ friendly as it works with all genders and sexual orientations. EFT focuses on the unique needs and challenges of every couple. Whether you are a couple questioning an open relationship or trying to establish the necessary boundaries in a polyamorous relationship, EFT can help you and your partner to deepen your emotional connection, improve communication, and build a more satisfying and fulfilling bond.
I work closely with couples going through relationship distress to help them identify their emotional needs and desires and to develop new ways of communicating and connecting. This can involve exploring past experiences, revealing negative emotions that take a toll on the relationship, identifying triggers for negative patterns of interaction, and practicing new ways of responding to one another’s needs and emotions.
Explore, Restore, and Revitalize Your Relationships to Improve the Quality Of Life
Couples Therapy for Stronger Emotional Connections, Closeness & Intimacy
Your Life Belongs To You - It’s Time to Thrive!
Do you keep having the same fight over and over again, stuck in the same depressing loop? Maybe your connection and closeness to your partner have disappeared and you fear separation. Couples therapy focuses on the relationship between two people, supporting them in understanding their feelings and needs and learning better communication skills.
Relationships take work, and most of us have not been taught how to be attuned to our partner’s needs, or how to even express our own needs. Research has shown that couples therapy can be highly beneficial in helping couples work through conflicts, (re)build trust, and strengthen the connection between them.
We can get to the root of your relationship struggles and explore the cycles that keep you distant and disconnected and develop better ways for you and your partner to communicate with each other. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or building a new one, living together or separately, or exploring a major transition in your relationship, I can help. I work with couples of all genders and orientations who want to face their challenges with honesty and compassion and (re)build a secure base of connection and trust.
You Might Be Seeking Help With…
Emotionally focused couples therapy can be a helpful tool for couples who are struggling with communication, emotional connection, conflict resolution, or sex and intimacy in their relationship. Here are a few areas you might be seeking help with:
- Cycles of conflict and disconnection in your relationship.
- Struggling to communicate effectively with one another.
- Struggling to feel heard or understood by your partner.
- Experiencing feelings of mistrust or insecurity in your relationship.
- Struggling to resolve conflicts and disagreements in a constructive way.
- Feeling emotionally distant or disconnected from one another.
- Experiencing a lack of intimacy or sexual desire in your relationship.
- Dealing with a major life transition, such as the birth of a child, a job loss, or a move to a new city.
- Wanting to strengthen your emotional bond and build a more satisfying and fulfilling relationship.
Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Consultation Today!
I would be honored to journey with you and your partner on the road to your relationship healing and growth together. I have experience working with distressed couples looking to overcome negative patterns of interaction and form a more secure attachment bond and would be honored to work with you.
frequently asked questions
Emotionally focused couple therapy (EFT) is a powerful and highly effective approach to couples therapy that focuses on the emotional connections between partners. This type of therapeutic intervention is based on the idea that our emotions are at the core of our relationships, and that by understanding and working with these emotions, couples can create a deeper, more meaningful connection with one another.
EFT fundamentally works to change negative patterns of interaction that keep you and your partner stuck in conflict and disconnection. EFT is a structured approach that involves identifying the negative patterns of interaction causing problems in your relationship, managing negative emotions, promoting greater emotional safety and trust, accessing new ways of communicating and responding to one another’s needs and emotions, and creating a plan for maintaining your emotional connection and strengthening your relationship.
EFT is suitable for all types of relationships: heterosexual or same-sex, married, pre-marital or dating, young or old, EFT meets the specific needs and challenges you and your partner face in your relationship.